While I enjoy dating people like David and people like Lauren, both experiences often include bi erasure, or society’s desire to categorize me as either straight or gay. When I’m out at a queer club covered in glitter and making out with Lauren, the lesbian I’m seeing, society assumes I’m a femme lesbian. When I’m out at the movies with David, the tall, hairy, straight dude, society assumes that I’m a straight woman. And on top of annoying questions, she likely experiences a unique form of identity erasure. You wouldn't keep asking a straight woman you were dating if she was 'really' straight, right? Yeah, it's just as weird for you to do that to a bisexual woman.Ģ.
